Restoring Balance in Muslim Marriages: Understanding the Root of the Crisis
In today’s Muslim societies, many families are struggling — not due to lack of resources, but due to a loss of balance. Modern values have entered our homes, changing expectations and roles, while parts of Islamic teachings are either ignored or selectively applied.
1. Men Abandoning Duties, Women Filling the Gap
Islam commands men to provide for their wives. But when many men fail to uphold this duty — due to unemployment, irresponsibility, or weak faith — women are often left with no choice but to work. Over time, this shift becomes an expectation, not an emergency solution.
2. Women Seeking Independence and Comfort
Modern society encourages women to live independently, earn like men, and enjoy life freely. Many no longer feel satisfied with what their husbands can offer. Instead, they seek higher standards of living, often influenced by social media and materialism.
3. Job Market Pressure and Role Confusion
As women enter the workforce in large numbers, competition rises, salaries drop, and family roles blur. Men begin to expect financial help from wives, while women expect equality in decision-making. Neither feels fully responsible or fully supported.
4. Ignoring One Part of Islam Breaks the Whole
Islam is a complete system — if we demand obedience from wives but ignore our duty to provide, or if we allow polygamy but shame it socially, we create an imbalance. Partial practice leads to widespread injustice.
5. The Way Forward: Justice, Not Just Equality
Islam emphasizes justice (adl) over sameness. It honors the natural differences between men and women, assigning each rights and duties suited to their strengths. A wife who works deserves respect, but a husband who provides should not be compared to celebrity standards.
Conclusion:
Modern Muslim marriages need a return to Islamic balance — one where responsibility, respect, and contentment are revived. Real success isn’t in who earns more, but in who fulfills their role with sincerity and taqwa.