In today’s world full of temptation, many young men ask:
“Should I see every woman as my sister?”
“If I do, how will I feel attraction for my future wife?”
“Is it Islamic to see her as a sister even one second before nikah?”
These are honest questions — and Islam provides clear, balanced answers.
🔹 Until Nikah — She Is Not Your Wife
No matter how close you feel or serious your intentions,
Until nikah happens, she is not your wife and not halal for you.
So yes —
👉 You should see every woman as your sister — unless you’re married to her.
This includes classmates, friends, co-workers, and even someone you consider for marriage.
🔹 Every Sister Should Also Act Like a Sister
Islam teaches both men and women to observe modesty and respect.
Women should behave toward men as sisters do — with modesty, dignity, and proper boundaries.
This means:
Not showing their body or beauty unnecessarily.
Speaking and acting respectfully without flirtation.
Lowering their gaze as well.
This mutual respect and modesty protects both hearts and helps avoid temptation.
🔹 But What If I Never Feel Attraction?
“If I see every woman as a sister, how will I feel desire to marry?”
✅ You don’t need desire for all women — only for one, your future wife.
Desire grows in marriage through halal closeness and love.
Allah says:
“And He placed between you affection and mercy…”
(Surah Ar-Rum, 30:21)
🔹 What About The Moment Before Nikah?
“Should I see her as a sister even one second before nikah?”
✅ Yes. Until nikah is complete, she is not halal for you.
No flirting, no touching, no romantic texting.
The Prophet ï·º said:
“It is better for one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle than to touch a woman who is not permissible to him.”
(Sunan al-Kubra 10405 – Hasan)
🧠When You’re Ready to Marry
Make sincere intention.
Involve family.
Observe character and deen.
Lower your gaze.
Seek Allah’s guidance (istikhara).
Only after nikah, begin halal love.
✅ Final Rule
“Every woman is my sister until Allah makes her my wife — even one second before nikah.”
And every sister should behave toward men as a brother — with modesty and respect.
✍️ For every brother and sister seeking purity and halal love. May Allah bless your efforts and grant you a righteous spouse.
Be patient and lower your gaze, even if you think of women as sisters—because Shaytan is always waiting to twist that thought. Read more: The Hidden Trap: ‘If I See Women as Sisters, I Can Look’.